Five ways to stop being self-conscious about your dancing.

Okay I’ll admit I am extremely conscious about my dancing. And watching a video of myself dancing terribly may or may not have helped with my confidence. And having a super-confident and an amazing dancing and a spotlight stealer for a close friend definitely did not help me escape this self-consciousness. Dancing is an amazing way to bust your stress and just enjoy and lose yourself to the beat. And if you’re thinking along the lines of, “Oh, but I’m terrible at dancing,” worry no further, I’m here to help you!

1. Be confident.

You don’t have to be awesome at dancing to be an awesome dancer. It’s all about confidence. Believe me. And to be confident, you absolutely need to wear something comfortable. You don’t want to be wearing a macro mini and worry about flashing your panty on top of your self-consciousness about your dancing. Fake confidence even if you’re not confidence; just don’t let your self-consciousness show.

2. You’re not as terrible as you think you are.

We’re the harshest judges of ourselves. And after watching that video of myself dancing infront of all my friends and their parents, I cannot help but cringe inside every time I think about it till date. But they definitely didn’t think I was that bad. Yes, they probably passed a comment or two but that’s it. It doesn’t mean you should never dance again. I wish I had the wisdom I have now then, I would definitely have enjoyed my pre-teen and early teenage years better. But just a year or two after that new years eve party dance, I was forced to dance again and this time in front of a ton of strangers. I resisted as best as I could while everyone around me insisted I dance with a couple of other girls while everyone sat watching us. I had to give in, and the surprising thing was how everyone was all praises about my dance. Everybody loved it and specially came up to me tell me I danced really well. You can only imagine how I felt. That helped boost up my confidence immensely. So, just remember you are nowhere near as terrible as you think you are!

3. Dance alone first.

Practice makes a man perfect. There’s nothing that you can’t get good at if you practice. So, lock yourself up in your room and turn up the music loud and just move your body. Record yourself or dance infront of a mirror to see what mistakes you might be making. Maybe you’re swinging that arm a bit too much or the booty shake you think is sexy is so not sexy. Learn and improve.

4. Watch YouTube tutorials and music videos.

To learn some new dance steps just go on youtube and you’ll find tons of tutorials teaching step-by-step on how to dance. And watch more music videos and try to imitate the dance techniques or just be inspired and have you’re own dance steps to that music. Listen to the beats carefully and make sure you’re not dancing too fast or too slow. Be in rhythm with the music beats.

5. Dance for yourself, not for others.

Just enjoy dancing, even if you’re pathetic at it, who cares! If you enjoy it do it. To hell with what other people think about you. Do your thing. Who says you have to be a pro at dancing to dance! Lose yourslef to the beat, close your eyes and just have fun.

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A Seizure.

Hi people!

How are you doing today? I spent my Sunday trying to study and actually not studying much. I have to get serious now. I wasted away yet another day.

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Now you’re probably thinking why the title of this post is ‘A Seizure’ when I’m writing nothing about it. Well, sorry about that but here it is. So I was sitting at my desk, in a pretence of studying (well, I did have my books in front me), when I really was watching youtube videos. And then, my brain decided it was enough and I got up to go to the bathroom to relieve myself, and at that moment I felt it coming. My usual dizziness which happens often enough, like 2-3 times a day, and it was nothing new to me. But it was a bit more intense than just my normal dizzy spells where the world would go round and I’d lose my balance and my vision would black out. This time as I felt myself drop on the chair ( Thank God it was there!) and as my face hit the desk, I realized I was spasming. It didn’t really last that long. Perhaps 5-10 seconds. I cannot be sure, my mind wasn’t functioning properly at that time.

I know, I should go see a doctor, but… well, I don’t want to. I haven’t told my parents about this, ’cause my mom will worry and fuss so much about it. But I promise I will, if this gets any worse. And I’m thinking of writing the number of dizzy spells I have each day so that I can keep a track of them.

Do you have any dizzy spells every time you get up after sitting or laying down for a while or even when you’re sitting and you stretch a lil bit? Tell me in the comments section below!

Cya, muah.

Love, Nikhitha.

I am back.

Hi guys!

I am back to blogging again. Can’t believe it’s been 2 months since I last wrote a post. Feels like these two months just flew by. So much has happened in these two months, all in all I would say August has been the best month of this year so far. I went on a small vacation with my family to Chennai, to complete my brother’s admission process and to get him settled in his new home for the nest 3 years. I miss him and things just aren’t the same without him. But we’re (Nikhil and I) too proud to admit that we really miss each other. I would if he would (which means never).

My great-grandmother also passed away in the middle of our vacation. And since we were pretty near to where my grandparent’s live, we decided to cut our vacation and attend my great-grandmother’s funeral.

It wasn’t a sad time for me because-

  • I barely knew her.
  • And I think she lived her life to it’s full extent. She was 97 when she died.

Living till that age kinda scares me, seeing her with all her ailments and stuff, I’d rather die at 70 than live through old-age ailments. Speaking of deaths, I recently did a lot of internet research on spirits and ghosts, and um, I didn’t really like what I found. It said people with unhappy thoughts are more prone to spirit attacks. What?! Now I can’t be unhappy without being scared of being possessed. You’ll laugh when I tell you this what I tell myself at night ever since, “Nikhitha, be happy, the ghosts won’t attack you if they see you’re happy.” Crazy, huh? As if speaking that aloud to myself will make me any more happy or calm the butterflies inside. Tell me in the comments section if you believe ghosts are real.

Okay, now steering away from this ghost talk (I don’t want to attract their attention!), I have my Half-Yearly’s coming up in 10 days! I should be studying hard but instead I’m procrastinating my time away by writing this post. (Hope that makes you appreciate the time I took to write this a bit more.) Gosh, I’m such a procrastinator. I have so much to study and I tell myself that I’ll do it tomorrow and well, heard that proverb – ‘Tomorrow never comes’, eh? So true.

So, one of the reasons why I stopped blogging was because I didn’t know what I wanted to blog about. I am no computer geek to write informational blogs. Makeup and beauty? Even though I spend so much of my time on youtube watching beauty gurus, I don’t wear makeup, nor have an impeccable fashion sense. And what advice could a nearly 16 year old give? I finally decided on writing on my life; this could be my diary! Sounds cheesy, but well, I was always fascinated by the idea of having a teenage diary (not always, ever since I read Meg Cabot’s Princess Diary series) and could never seem to write beyond the first entry. So that settles it. I hope I don’t bore you to death.

And I hope I will continue writing here regularly, and not disappear like I did for these two months.

Bye, and don’t forget to have a great time today, ’cause this day, this time will never come back.

Love, Nikhitha.

 

5 things to learn from Tyrion Lannister from Game of Thrones

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Tyrion Lannister is the youngest child of Tywin, Lord of Casterly Rock and Warden of the West, and Joanna. He is mockingly called ‘The Imp’ and ‘The Halfman’.  He uses his wit and intellect to overcome the prejudice he faces as a dwarf. He accepts himself as he is, and has learned to use his wits to out talk and out think the bad people. His intelligence, excellent education and mind for strategies make up for his dwarfism.

He is one of my favourite characters in the show and Peter Dinklage  plays the character perfectly.

  • “Never forget who you are, for surely the world won’t.”You are who you are, and if you cannot change it, make it your strength. Tyrion has come to terms with his shortcomings and japes about his dwarfism do not affect him any longer. Your strengths can never be used to hurt you. Remember that.
  • “I have a realistic grasp of my own strengths and weaknesses. My mind is my weapon. My brother has his sword, King Robert has his warhammer, and I have my mind… and a mind needs books as a sword needs a whetstone, if it is to keep its edge.”Know your strengths and hone them. Do not waste time weeping for something that you do not have. Every person is good at something that the other might be bad at or vice versa. Find your qualities and work on them.
  • “As I said, I was young and stupid.”
    Tyrion’s experience of first love wasn’t pleasant. His father annulled his marriage to prostitute, Tysha, and ever since he has reciprocated Lord Tywin’s hatred with equal vigour. Although he is still hurt, but he doesn’t let himself be overcome with grief or hatred. So learn from your mistakes, think about how stupid you were, and then move on. Fast.
  • “I have a tender spot in my heart for cripples, bastards and broken things.”Be kind to the above mentioned.
  • “I will hurt you for this. A day will come when you think you are safe and happy, and your joy will turn to ashes in your mouth. And you will know the debt is paid.”
    Always pay your debts. 😉

Who is your favourite Game of Thrones character?

Money or Happiness?

This is possibly the toughest choice many face in their lives. Though some of you might not realize it. But many a time, in some way or the other you have probably relinquished your happiness for money, and less often, the other way around.

 And there are people who have been convincing themselves for so long that they start to believe what they are doing for money is their passion; when it’s really not. They have buried their real passion so deep, that they’ve almost completely forgotten about it.

And again, there are people who have yet to discover themselves. But time doesn’t wait for anybody. Especially here in India, where parents are such an influential source on a student, that they do what their parents want them to do, just to please them. This pleasing, unfortunately never ends. Just the merest mention that you want to do something that doesn’t pay as much as Engineering jobs, friend, you have just dropped an atom bomb on your house. And sometimes when you do not know what to do, you do what your friend is doing, and that in most cases is Engineering. A student in India is supposed to have a blue print of their life ready by 9th grade. And then, spend the next four years laboring to get into a good reputed university. Spending 8 hours at school, 5 hours at coaching, and another 3 studying. That’s already 16 hours! And people need 8 hours of sleep, minimum. And this is the time when you build your personality, when you discover yourself. But instead, you’re a hunched back from your heavy books. And with huge dark circles under your eye from lack of sleep. You never go out and socialize with people. You have insecurities and your confidence is at the gutter level. Is that how life is to be?

Going after either money or happiness is like getting away from the other at times. But if you are the kind who has them both, friend, you are probably one the luckiest people alive.

Here is a Venn diagram that illustrates what I’m saying in the best way possible.

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#WIN seems kind of impossible to happen, right?

Money is essential. It’s a need, and in some way even more important than your happiness. Happiness cannot buy food, that sedan car, or pay for your bills. And everybody wants to be a respectable fellow in the society.

But happiness… you have one life to live right? Why do something you hate? Why not do something that brings you happiness? Well, maybe, you won’t earn as much. And maybe you won’t have a luxurious life as your friend or your sibling does. But if you’re happy, somehow that won’t matter. You will wake up every morning happy and not think of your job as a chore, it’ll be playtime for you. And you’ll love every minute of it. You’d be a better human being.

And when you’re hard working and really passionate about what you do, success will come knocking at your door. Just have a bit of patience. Everything boils down to self-belief, hard work, and passion.

There will be hard times, but no great man has never had hard times. It’s because they believed in themselves and were not swayed by hardships that came their way, did they reach where they are today.

If I was given a choice between the both, I’d choose happiness in the blink of an eye. And I am choosing happiness over money. Sure there are hardships for me in the future, but I’m ready to meet them head-on.

What would you choose? Consider carefully.

-Love, Nikhitha

Can you say a firm no?

It was the last lecture of the day. I was relieved and frustrated at the same time. The last hour at school is probably the hardest. You feel filthy from all the sweat and stickiness left on your skin. And you cannot wait to go home, take a nice refreshing bath and a nap in your AC or water cooler room finally. But my class is cursed with probably the scariest and most widely hated subject (not to me though) – Mathematics, on the last hours of school.

Last period, Math, and a boring chapter. Worst combination ever! Being the cheeky teens we are, we (the whole class) begged him not to teach anything that day. And surprisingly enough, he consented. Whoa, right?

But, the thing with teachers is that they cannot sit idle for a second. Instead of teaching complex numbers, he decided to give us a few life lessons which was inspiring, well, at least for an hour.

Now I’ll tell you this thing about us, teens. We are inspired and motivated so damn quickly. And we forget about it even quicker. But the successful person is someone who can hold the inspiration in. Someone who can see it to the end. Like the true mark of a writer is someone who finishes the story. Starting is something many can do. That’s where most people balk.

Gr, I get so off topic. So, my maths teacher said a few things that struck me. Hard enough to make me think about them still (12 hours later), that’s no easy feat, buddy. So, long lecture short, here are the main points.

  • Personality is everything. Building a positive and confident personality should figure highest in your list of priorities.
  • Be optimistic. Always.
  • And lastly, learn to say no.

The third point, hit home, probably because I’d been through that situation just a few days ago. I’d said a firm no, and held it. Nothing swayed me, not her thousand pleas. I was feeling goddamn proud of it.

He asked, “Can you say no to something if your friends plead you for it?”

And I saw so many of my classmates shaking their heads (especially girls), it was crazy.

But remember, there’s a place and time to be stubborn. Learning to say yes to the positive things in life is important as well. Maybe, even more so.

Well, that’s about it. Have a nice day.

– Nikhitha